as_damaged | ☤ twenty-six

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well, why not.

if you know something good is bound to end badly, is it still worth beginning? when does happiness outweigh the risk, the loss?

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I've seen patients who don't start living until they get their terminal diagnosis.

I'm a doctor.

But the dying patient isn't going to be the one left behind, after. They're making the most of the time they've got because the end is inevitable and involuntary.

Right, so their relatives should drop them because watching them die is going to suck.

It happens. I'm not in favour.

That isn't what I meant at all.

Say you were in love, and learned that the object of your affections was going to drop dead from a sudden, massive heart attack in two years. Say you trusted that information. Do you stay friends, losing nothing, not setting yourself up for a fall? Or do you pursue it, even knowing it's going to break you in the end?

I'm not the doctor you should be asking.

You're the doctor I am asking.

I think you'd have to be crazy to walk into a situation asking to get hurt. You get a dog knowing you'll outlive it, not a partner. The best thing you could do for yourself is walk away. Thing with love is it's the point where you stop doing what's best for yourself.

So, you'd do it? If you loved them.

I don't know.

Would it make a difference, how long you had? Or how, exactly, it would end? What if it was a slow illness, not a sudden death? Or what if-

How do you quantify this sort of thing?

You don't. There isn't logic to losing people. Doesn't matter if it blindsides you or you wait years expecting it. There isn't an easy option.

I wouldn't walk away.

So it comes to loss, before, on your own terms, or loss another time.

So even brief happiness would be worth it? To you.

No. I just wouldn't walk away.

I'm not sure I follow.

If someone I love is dying, my happiness matters a lot less than theirs does. I don't want to not be there.

By that logic, it seems like the other person is being selfish.

Yeah, people who die of massive heart attacks are all me me me. They'd be more selfish if they didn't tell anyone.

The heart attack was just an example.

I don't think a different diagnosis disproves my point.

There are other ways for things to end than death, too. Does your point still stand then?

That would depend on the situation. If they're going to run off with the mailman it's less likely.

Definitely not infidelity. In my hypothetical.

Maybe, maybe not. How much do you love them?

How do you quantify something like that?

I think they say you just know.

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