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[as_damaged]

I have my husband's sperm. Frozen.

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[as_damaged]

I'm not sure I can answer with as much precision as you'd like. There are rational considerations, of course-- I'd want to make certain I'd be financially secure, that, if I were still working, I would be able to comfortably divide my time between pursuits. But the emotional considerations are just as important, and harder to quantify.

I'm not sure there is an optimal time, necessarily. Right now my career satisfies me, in terms of planning for the future. At some point it might not. I can't say when that will occur, only that it hasn't yet.

[bonescientist.livejournal.com]

It's hard to be precise about the future, understandably. That was, I imagine, as precise as one can be about something as life-altering as having progeny.

[as_damaged]

I think so. If nothing else... having options is generally better than not having options, to look at it from a rational perspective.

I'm going to guess that you don't have any children? Have you ever considered it?

[bonescientist.livejournal.com]

That is true.

No, I do not have any children myself, and I have never really felt any specific desire or need to have any, but lately... I've noticed that I have begun to consider the idea as a possibility, one day. But there are several questions attached to the issue I would have to resolve, first. And it may all simply be an emotional reaction to the baby-related incidents the City has sprung on the citizens lately that have been difficult to ignore.

[as_damaged]

It may sound trite to say never say never, but I've always found it to be good advice. I think it's normal for even the staunchest attitudes to change, as circumstances do. When my husband was dying-- when we decided to freeze his sperm-- I think I believed, at least in part, that I'd never remarry; as time went on and the grief became less overwhelming I've reconsidered that position. As an example.

I can see how being here might bring up the issue in an unfamiliar way. It's interesting, how the curses affect us in the long term... Obviously becoming a parent isn't a decision to undertake lightly, but I don't think there's anything wrong with being open to the possibility. Even if you ultimately elect not to.